The title of this post comes from a bumper sticker I saw recently. Many of you have perhaps heard me rant about bumper stickers before. While they can occasionally be clever and cute, I argue that they often give people just yet another arena in which to promote bitter passive aggressiveness. But, occasionally, I see stickers with worthwhile messages, like this one. “Change is Inevitable…Growth is Optional.” True. Often things happen that we can’t control, but, we can control how we react and move forward from them.
Along with this, I’ve also been thinking recently how normal it is as people to compare ourselves to others. For example, I’ll find myself thinking “that girl is cuter/smarter/funnier/more fill in the blank than I am.” Often, though, I find I also compare myself to myself. This at times can be a good thing, such as when I say to myself, “Lauren: the Lauren I know doesn’t need to eat 8 chocolate chip cookies at once…she has self-control.” That kind of comparison is a good thing. However, there are other times when it can be harmful and depressing to compare myself to myself. Case in point: now. I am once again on the brink of unemployment and maintaining a sense of hope in the face of a bleak job market is hard to do. I desire to find a job that brings fulfillment and enjoyment, but my chances of doing so feel pretty slim. I find myself comparing my current situation to where I was two years ago: living in Ethiopia, investing in the lives of my students and women from the fistula hospital and feeling like my life had purpose. Right now, to be completely honest, my purpose meter feels as though it is on the steady decline.
BUT, I am fighting to believe that this is not the end of the story. Not every season of life can be fun and glamorous. There are days in which we are not going to feel like superheroes or wonderwomen. Ordinary is normal. I am blessed to have my health, a roof over my head, friends and family who love me. I could be depressed about finding myself jobless again or I could choose to believe that God is doing something through this difficult time of waiting that I can’t yet understand but someday will. Yes, I am going to fight to believe. But, I would ask for your prayers through this time. It isn’t easy. And, if you know of other people experiencing unemployment, I encourage you to pray for them: they need your support and encouragement…even if they don’t ask for it. Thank you.